Quando o amor entre pais e filhos transborda: um estudo sobre as relações fusionais

Abstract

This research deals with fusional relationships and misplacements in the process of individuation-separation of individuals who started to occupy traumatogenic positions in the bond with their parents. The cases reported here have been named as silent seduction or emotional incest syndrome, in which one of the parents turns to the child in search of a substitute partner. In another form of misplacement in the individuation-separation process, related to the idea of terrorism of suffering (FERENCZI, 1933), these parents make their child their best friend or confidant, imposing excessive demands on the child, without validating the child's psychic boundaries. In a third deviant position, there are still parents who make their children points of discharge for dissatisfaction from their personal lives. It is argued that such early experiences configure a state of deprivation and traumatic abandonment of such children. In this thesis, an attempt is made to analyze how fusional relationships and the psychic consequences for a child are configured when their parents are unable to provide an environment that facilitates their psychic constitution towards emancipation. Such relationships are considered in the pre-Oedipal and Oedipal periods and their repercussions in adolescence and in the adult life of these individuals. Theory and clinic are articulated and the theoretical path contemplates the teachings of Sigmund Freud, Sándor Ferenczi, Michael Balint, Donald Winnicott, André Green and other contemporary authors, illustrated by clinical cases and vignettes that deal with these ailments. We seek, start, to formulate a clinical thought on how to better listen in analysis to the pain arising from these relationships and the defensive outputs adopted by such analysands in the face of obstacles in their path of individualization, in the light of important ideas, such as the dimension of the analyst's testimony, the metapsychological conception of the third in psychoanalysis, as well as the process of symbolizing the history of the fusional relationship, which can lead to the experience that what, illusory, seemed to have been a privilege, may actually have been a state deprivation they were in time, under the guise of the perfect couple, best friends, devotion, satisfaction, but which, deep down, generated the sequels of a traumatic abandonment